Parent Bravely
Rebecca Lingo • August 14, 2023

Parent Bravely through Transitions

Parenting during transitions requires bravery! Are you worried that your child will cry at drop off, make friends, like their teacher? The start of the school year is a big time of change for families. As parents we question ourselves, our child, our decisions, and everyone’s readiness. Frequently, we look to our community for support. This blog is exactly that. Our aim is to share how we think about guiding children and young adults through transitions. Let us know what you find supportive.
 
The link below has suggested questions and words to use for change and transitions such as: Have you ever wondered aloud what the first day of school would be like and how you will feel? Follow the link for more: 
https://www.instagram.com/p/CgwjDSruURU/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

   
This amazing link below has info about normalizing feelings about change. It gets a bit dramatic by claiming you can avoid a first day meltdown, but follow the link so you can take actions so your heart won’t hurt as much.
https://www.instagram.com/reel/ChAAo1EArvD/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

 

"Resistance as part of the path to separation." This is mind-blowing information and a great way to lean into a child’s resistance instead of battling with our children about getting them to school. With this help, you can validate your child’s feelings and recognize the bigger picture of their developmental path: https://www.tiktok.com/@drbeckyatgoodinside/video/7130245793058934058?lang=en

 

This help for handling the first day of school has been shared by our teachers in our parent group as help for starting anything new: https://www.facebook.com/reel/982851989653039

 

Lean on us when we can help. Often parenting is a struggle that just requires reminding yourself that you are not alone.


In partnership,

Rebecca Lingo

Head of School and Co-Founder

People in a classroom setting, the Lighthouse Parenting & Montessori  with the guiding the child tag line below it.
By Rebecca Lingo November 10, 2025
In a world where parenting and education often default to over-scheduling, micromanaging, and high-stakes achievement, two philosophies stand out for their balance, wisdom, and deep respect for the child: Lighthouse Parenting, coined by Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg, a pediatrician and adolescent medicine specialist. The Montessori Method, developed by Dr. Maria Montessori, an Italian physician and educator. At first glance, one is a parenting model and the other an educational framework. But look more closely, and you'll find they share a profound common ground: both recognize that children thrive not when they're controlled, but when they're guided with care, clarity, and trust. The Shared Philosophy: Respect, Trust, and Autonomy Lighthouse Parenting teaches us to be the calm, steady presence in a child’s life. Like a lighthouse, a parent offers safety and guidance—but doesn’t steer the ship. Children are allowed to make choices, face challenges, and learn from experience, while knowing there’s a safe harbor when needed. Montessori education emphasizes the prepared environment, freedom within limits, and the role of the adult as a guide, not a director. The child is seen as naturally curious and capable, needing space, not pressure, to reach their full potential. Both approaches believe that children learn best when: They feel safe and supported (emotional security). They are given appropriate freedom (autonomy). They are trusted to be capable of growth (respect). How Lighthouse Parenting Mirrors Montessori Principles Let’s explore specific parallels between the two approaches: 
A child working with number rods on a mat. Text: After Number Rods: Growing a Felt Understanding of Mathematics.
By Kelly Jonelis and Rebecca Lingo November 3, 2025
In Montessori classrooms, mathematical understanding begins long before symbols or equations appear. It begins in the body. When young children carry Number Rods—red and blue wooden bars of increasing length—they are not merely learning to count. They are internalizing what quantity feels like. The rods show quantities in a fixed, linear, and measurable form—not loose, individual, or separate units. This difference is subtle but powerful. In many conventional early math settings, children are shown three buttons or four apples and asked, “How many?” Montessori children certainly have those experiences too, through materials like Cards and Counters. But the Number Rods introduce something more abstract: quantity as something continuous and measurable. A rod of six is one solid piece, not six separate ones. It represents a fixed magnitude that can be compared, combined, or measured—laying the foundation for the number line, for operations, and for the idea that numbers express magnitude as well as count. “This concept can be compared to an eight-ounce glass of water: you don’t have eight separate ounces, you have a glass that is eight ounces. It’s a whole quantity, not a sum of parts. Likewise, the Number Rods offer children an experience of number as a unified magnitude. The “six” rod is not three twos or two threes; it is simply six. That understanding, that a number can be both composed and whole, bridges a crucial conceptual gap for later mathematics.” Kelly Jonelis, Adolescent Program Director and Math Teacher Through countless experiences—carrying, comparing, building stair patterns, and making “ten combinations”—children begin to feel relationships between numbers. They see that five is longer than three by exactly two, and that these relationships are consistent and reliable. This concrete sense of equivalence and proportion quietly becomes the basis of estimation, measurement, and algebraic thinking. Even extensions like “memory games” or exploring one meter in length serve a larger purpose. The child’s repeated interactions with fixed quantities help them internalize what Montessori called “materialized abstraction.” They are learning, through movement and perception, what it means for a quantity to exist in space and time—a step far deeper than counting individual items.